|william turns 1|
|lockley turns 1 (rachels cake fun)|
|faith turns 16|
it was a "big one" and thought I would share my thoughts about her on her special day and what we did to celebrate.
|colby turns 6|
|rachel turns 30|
|faith turns 11|
|faith turns 10|
|kelly turns 23|
When thinking back to my own birthdays and which one was most memorable it was 4 years ago, the birthday from Hell...........the birthday I spent in the hospital when my husband was "almost dying" I wrote about it , and his progress and spoke on the phone everyday with my friends and his family and stayed "round the clock" with him, not only that day but for a few months. I slept on the floor, the end of the bed, next to him as close as I could to let him know that I was there for him. I prayed, I cried and I waited ......... while my husband struggled with his appendix rupturing, infection, allergic reactions etc........ he went in Jan. 21........ my birthday...... Jan. 22...............spent my birthday rejoicing that we were "breathing" and that was enough. This went on for almost 3 months............ 3 surgeries and touch and go situation everyday. My husband wasn't and isn't much of a planner and had not gotten me a card, a gift, hung a flag, or even written me a note to say he loved me for my birthday prior to the 21st when he got sick so there was nothing from him....... My children called my phone to say happy birthday (only 1 of my step children did not) and I got only 1 gift in the mail from my GF in New Orleans Vicki...... yet it was the most memorable birthday I have ever had. My husband lost a lot , he lost his body part and about 40 lbs, time from work and a bunch of pride, and his addiction to cigarettes during that stay in the hospital. I lost a lot too........ but it wasn't the same things......... I lost sleep, work, money, my place in line, classes, and opportunities. I lost a "birthday." totally...... it was like it didn't happen, "another day" as my Dad would say. The people that spent that time with me on the phone and on the internet know the pain, fear and struggle that I had behind the scenes with that situation.
I haven't spoken about it much since.....but decided it was time to "get it out there" now..........
as my "birth" day which was to be celebrated later...?.......was never but I remember well.................
|butch turns 50|
My own Father's birthday is next week, I don't know how old my Dad is turning , I know he is 70 something. I really didn't know when he turned 50 and did not celebrate it with him, or 60 or 70.........or........ I don't remember ever celebrating a birthday with or for him and wonder if anyone EVER HAS?
I have called him on his birthday, I have sent him gifts and cards. He has never said thank you, but he always has said "its just another day." I often wonder what made him think this way ....... he makes it hard for me to celebrate ...........he rejects it. I don't ever remember celebrating my own birthday with my Dad either...... but he has sent me a check "here and there" and never a card. Why do we have such different ideas and expectations about this day we call a "birthday?"
|Happy B irthday Jesus|
|caleb turns 5|
|lockley's bday at chuck e cheese NC|
My 50th will be in NOLA this YEAR in MARCH ............I am "on hold" until then! :) stay tuned ............ life is too short not to celebrate it ........its not just another day............