Friday, January 14, 2011

Day 10 → Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.

"Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know"
Original post on 30 TRUTHS
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There is no one that I want to let go of in my life good or bad at this moment in time , even if I did "need to" I wouldn't be able to at this time. I am tired of chopping the branches from the tree right now, I am sure the trunk is much healthier now and needs to get outta the "shock" about a few of them. My longterm true friendships all have a common theme..........ALL OF THEM can start back right where they ended and we can start "jabbering" right there where we left oft without a hitch.........that is a cool and TIMELESS friendship that I hold deal to my heart.
Part two of this challenge asks about "someone you wish you didn't know." There are a few of those around..........people that were in my past that continue to haunt me .......those bones that rattle every now and again in my closet when they see certain people.   The very thought of that occurring makes me shudder.  

If I didn't know someone.....I had never met them ..............then I would not have been affected by the intersection we had in this lifetime.  You see I believe that whoever you meet on your most important "journey" of your life you take from ...........and hopefully you take a good or positive thought, memory, event, habit, skill etc that will help you to have a better journey in the future, mutually.

There are a few people that once the relationship I had from them ended......... I felt like I was "taken" and did not "take from" and this resulted in somewhat of a deficit in the end.  I believe that those events are also supposed to happen and they are really uncomfortable.

A very close friend of mine for many years told me this on more than one occasion, "anjie, there are givers and there are takers in the world and there is just no grey area."

When I drift from a relationship, move, change circumstances etc it is usually because my journey with that person is basically on hold or over in the current space and time.  I sometimes assess where I am at in life and say ............ ya know if I quit participating in the relationship would my presence be missed or persued as I have tended to it?  If I can answer that question with a "NO" then sooner or later I drift.................. its human nature I belive.


OK now I have written all about my theories about bad friendships and relationships and how they work together to make a system.  

There is a poem that talks about the "seasons and reasons" of friendships that explains it all really.........
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown


so I will name NO ONE ...........for obvious reasons.............You know who you are.

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